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Things to Remember When You Are Not Where You Wish to Be

Posted by Kelly Scofield on October 20, 2021

We cannot be 100% all the time. Things get busy, we get mentally and physically tired. As the winter months are around the corner sometimes it's harder to stay on track of goals or maintain motivation. And that is OKAY. We are only human. Sometimes we need to rest and we need to be easy on ourselves.

Here are five tips to remember when you are in a mental funk or just not where you wish to be.

Tip 1.
Acceptance. In order to be your most authentic self, you must face the real truths that these moments are needed. Trying to be perfect all the time puts large amounts of pressure on yourself. If we can just accept our current state there will be so many better days ahead. Nobody can remain hyped up or perfect 365 days a year, it’s not attainable. Learn to love yourself even more during the hard times. With self-acceptance comes peace and with peace comes healing.

Tip 2.
Become your best friend. Heal any past feelings with your inner child. I know when you read it, it may sound silly. But when you put it into perspective we spend the most time with ourselves. If we can learn to love ourselves unconditionally, we can learn to let go of things that no longer serve us. Try saying this when a feeling consumes you “ I release any feeling that no longer serves me”. “ I do not wish to feel this way any longer”. Our minds are so powerful. It's truly our secret weapon for life. Water your garden and be mindful of what you let bloom and what you can cut off before it grows within.

Tip 3.
Something I’ve learned the hard way. If you’re like me. I need to be doing something at all times. Unfortunately, if you continue to just go, go, go your body will pick a day for rest. Our bodies are machines that love us. They want nothing but the best for us. They also hint at us more than we realize. Self-reflecting and becoming more aware of your feelings will allow you to pick up on the signs that you're body may be telling you. Reflect and BREATH. Take time for yourself when needed. Set boundaries and stick to them. Nobody can tell you how you feel, so put that as a reminder in your pocket and hold it close. It’s not selfish, it’s needed in order to be the best version of you. You cannot pour from an empty cup, you have to come first.

Tip 4.
Hold yourself accountable. When you mess up or fail, call yourself out, but do it with love. Try saying "Great try, I love you." Do this until you truly believe it. Then pat yourself on the back each day and KEEP TRYING. You are the only one in total control of your life. There are two types of mindsets. A “fixed” mind & “growth” mind. One is willing to learn and embrace failure, then moves forward and takes what they learned as motivation to try again and learn. The other wants to stay in the same place not willing to bloom, makes excuses, blames others, and has negative self-talk about him or herself. Choose wisely. Aim for a growth mindset. 

Tip 5.
Stay true to yourself and what you are becoming. For starters stop taking things personally. The majority of the time we have major setbacks due to the opinions of our peers. STOP.  Everyone is going through their own experiences and journies, just because something did or didn't work from someone else doesn't mean it will apply to your journey. Always show respect and thank them, but remember what you believe becomes part of you. Take a leap of faith. YOU WILL BE JUST FINE. Just because someone else did it and it didn’t work for them doesn’t mean it will happen to YOU. It takes courage to follow your dreams and not let others interfere. So move forward and keep working. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING you believe.

You got this! 💪

-Trainer Kelly